Do you find yourself having the same argument over and over again with your partner? Are you facing infidelity or an affair? Have you tried to solve issues many times on your own, but you feel like you need some support? Maybe you're stuck in a cycle of blame, regret, and resentment. Do you want to feel understood by your partner? Do you long for connection and love? Are you looking to build a strong foundation for your relationship journey?
You may have found yourself here because you are looking for ways to improve your relationships, or you may be looking for ways to reconnect with your partner, or you might be considering making a change in your life.
You may be in distress when you decide to seek couples therapy or marriage therapy - it is one of my goals to make the process as comfortable and even as enjoyable as possible. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage problems and gridlocked issues. We will work together to help you appreciate your relationship's strengths and to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities. Whether you are seeking relationship counseling because of common issues, such as frustration or communication struggles to more uncommon concerns, I am here to help.
I will offer you support and tools to help you overcome feelings of discouragement, resolve painful experiences, and develop a strong relationship and partnership. If anger, conflicts, depression, or anxieties are impacting your relationship, you will gain and learn proven approaches that work to help you manage conflicts, which can enhance your relationship and your life.
Because working with couples is one of my professional passions, I'd like to share with you a little about my professional experience. I have extensive training and knowledge to support you as you develop the relationship you crave. I am a level 3 Gottman therapist and utilize the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and Dan Wile's Collaborative Couple Therapy. I also use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I utilize proven research-based techniques in my work with couples.
The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman's research that began in the 1970's and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From this research, specific tools were developed to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage problems and dialogue about gridlocked (or perpetual) issues. I have also received advanced training with Drs. Bader and Pearson of The Couples Institute. Known worldwide for their pioneering work in couples therapy, they speak at major conferences and conduct training throughout the world. While living in California, I was fortunate to have trained with Dr. Dan Wile in Collaborative Couple Therapy. Dr. Gottman referred to Dr. Wile as the "greatest living marital therapist."
Many couples have considered therapy, on average, for about 8 years before they actually enter therapy. The work we do in therapy can feel overwhelming, yet it is also empowering! Some goals in couples therapy include increasing your awareness about yourself, your partner, and your interaction and communication patterns that are helpful or perhaps not so helpful. The benefits of couples therapy can be truly felt as you apply new knowledge and tools to shatter the ineffective patterns and build better patterns.
I hope you can see my dedication to the field of couples therapy and I hope you experience the benefits of our work together as your relationship develops and evolves.